Geek Girls Rule! #542 – What Gatekeeping Is and Isn’t?

Or conversely, everyone has to do some gatekeeping, but when it’s because someone has demonstrated through their actions that they are a douchebag, it’s no longer gatekeeping.

Instead it’s boundaries.

Yeah, I’ve seen these jackasses with their “I took a philosophy course my freshman year of college,” arguments, and it’s bullshit.

Look, wanting to deny someone access to a thing by virtue of something they cannot help, like gender, ethnicity, sexual orientation, or even gender presentation (and we are NOT having that argument here right now) is gatekeeping.

Not wanting to hang out with rapists, racists, misogynists, transphobes, homophobes, ableists, or even just someone who has proven themselves through their actions to be rude and unpleasant, is not gatekeeping.  It’s protecting yourself and your friends and family.

And for the love of fuck, please tell me I don’t have to explain why telling nazis to fuck off is not the same as being a racist fuck.

Because I do not have the energy for a bunch of disingenuous bullshit arguments from dudes who failed the aforementioned freshman philosophy class.  Just saying, if I have to read it I’ll post it, mock it and grade it.

Also, Straw Vulcans fuck off.

As a decent human being I don’t want to hang out with assholes.  As a sexual assault survivor, I really don’t want to hang out with rapists.  As someone who has friends all over the POC and Sexual/Gender spectrums, I am not willing to subject them to people who want them to die.

Telling someone to quit being an asshole is not the same as advocating genocide.

Telling someone that their behavior will not be tolerated is not the same as excluding all women/POC/queer/disabled folks.

Now this goes both ways, a bunch of conservative dudes are as unlikely to want to game with me as I am with them.  They may well game with like-minded women, Log Cabin Republicans, or conservative POC, but my wearing combat boots and jumping up and down on your throat Lefty ass is probably not a good fit.  And hey, that is totally their call.

See where the distinction is?  Behavior and action versus state of being?  Am I getting through? Is the fog lifting?

I trust I will not have to haul out my red pen and grade anyone with an F for reading comprehension.  Because I am so done arguing with the resolutely obtuse.

Right, so it’s bedtime.

PS We’ll talk about being an asshole to new people later.

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