Making the rounds of Tumblr today (Oh, Tumblr, how I love and despise thee) is this darling post. In addition to his completely charming lack of punctuation, capitalization and atrocious grammar, is the oh, so adorable misogyny dripping from every word. Because you know, girls regardless of hotness are NEVER into comics, ever.
Oh, but wait, he has so very graciously allowed that HALF of the girls who wear comic shirts MIGHT know something about what they’re wearing. And that he APPROVES of us! Oh thank goodness, I had almost thought life not worth living. /sarcasm
Ok, fine, I get it a little. I have been known to rail against people who wear Bauhaus or Misfits t-shirts who have can’t name a single song either band released. However, I would like to note that I rail against PEOPLE, neither men, nor women. You know why? Because I don’t assume that gender has anything to do with musical knowledge. Just as gender has FUCK ALL to do with knowledge about comics.
One of the really puzzling things to me is how women who wear comic t-shirts, whether or not they “understand” them, are sluts.
I mean, unless Captain Clueless thinks that these supposed comic-ignorant women are wearing these shirts in order to signal sexual readiness to all and sundry, like some weird cloth and graphic version of the inflamed buttocks of a female baboon in estrus, I’m just not seeing how a Green Lantern t-shirt equals “WHORE!”
Now, I’m not posting this just to mock this sad, pathetic doofus. I’m actually posting it to highlight a larger problem, which is the prevalence of attitudes like this in Geekdom of all stripes. This idea that female = clueless. I’ve talked about this regarding comics, gaming and videogames in the past. The fact that if I go into a store to buy a videogame and the Geek Husband What Rules goes with me, salesguys talk to him. If we’re in a strange comic or gaming store, or hell, even in familiar comic or gaming store, guys who’ve never met me will frequently try to explain comics I’ve been reading for years to me. Frequently, they are wrong. And I cannot tell you how many times I’ve joined a pick up game of some RPG or other, and had it assumed that I don’t know what all those funny dice are for, in spite of my “Not only do the rules say you’re wrong, they also say you’re a dick!” t-shirt.
Look, guys, I don’t know how to tell you this. But if you don’t want women in your hobby, you’re fucked. We’re here already.
And if you do want women in your hobbies, then shut these doofuses (doofi?) down when they go shooting off their mouths and start slut-shaming women for liking comics… which I’m still not sure where that leap came from.*
If you, personally, don’t want to talk to or play games with women, don’t. That is entirely up to you. I mean, we probably don’t want to hang out with you either. But don’t be an asshole about it, ok? You’re making all nerds look stupid, and I hate that. Also, we don’t need your approval to play games or read comics.
Go read PostcardsfromSpace’s response. She wins the internet, and should call me for delivery.
*Actually, I do. I understand. Next to calling a woman “fat” calling her a “slut” or a “whore” is one of the ways almost guaranteed to get a reaction. Unless she’s me. I have a tendency to respond with, “Jealous?”